When One Sibling Gets More Parent Attention — Siblings Part 3

Deborah Ruf, PhD
14 min readJun 6, 2024

When One Sibling Gets More Parent Attention

Common Topics Related to Gifted Siblings — Part 3 on Gifted Siblings

It never feels good to be overlooked or treated like you’ll be fine even if … you keep being overlooked.

This post is from The 5 Levels of Gifted Children Grown Up: What They Tell Us (Ruf, D., 2023), my 18-years longitudinal study of the gifted youngsters from my first book, 5 Levels of Gifted: School Issues and Educational Options (Ruf, D., 2005/2009).

The now-adult gifted children in this section share their views about their role in the family where someone else got more attention than the others. The reasons for such discrepancies vary.

I’ve included a table of descriptors at the end of this post about personality profiles, behaviors, parent viewpoints, etc. You might want to print it out so you can merge that information into what each subject is feeling, doing, and telling us about.

Harry Vassar

The three children in Harry’s family are each gifted to different degrees. Harry, a highly to exceptionally gifted person in Level Three, and USFJ (Caregiver/Nurturer) as a child and ENFJ (Giver, 1.6%) as an adult, had a well-behaved older…



Deborah Ruf, PhD

High Intelligence Specialist & Writer, Dr. Ruf writes about highly intelligent people from birth to very old age. www.fivelevelsofgifted.com