I responded and then thought I'd written in two places so I deleted one ... and it seems I deleted my whole nice answer. Yes, having true peers, a good "fit" in as many parts of your life and environment as possible, is very helpful, fun, and gratifying. Not all smart people will "feel right" to you, though. You will know when you are around people who "fit" because you will be excited, you will laugh or giggle more often than usual, and you will hate to see your time or conversations end. So, keep looking and trying different venues, groups, and following your interests enough to run into others who will bring out those good feelings in you.

When people are around others who "get them," they might end up being less intellectual from time to time as they simply feel safe and enjoy each other's acceptance and company. In my book I talk about "good fit" all the time. It is essential. Throughout our lives. Child, adult, all throughout our lives. Do you have what Anne of Green Gables called a "bosom buddy?" If you do, you know it. If you don't yet, you will "feel" it when it happens. Although the opposite sex can be that in some ways, life is so different between males and females that is important to have some same sex really good friends, and even one will make a huge difference.

I'm glad you asked, Sahar!